The Not-So-Friendly Friend: How to Set Boundaries for Healthy Friendships

Great for our innocent children who believe everyone is a friend, and don’t differentiate between true friends and children who hurt them.If your young child has regular interactions with another child, in daycare or kindy, that consistently chooses hurtful behaviours or words, this book is an empathetic social story that your child will understand.It’s about a girl who starts school, plays kind with everyone, uses her words and not her body during conflict. There’s one child who almost always behaves unkind towards her. At first she tries harder to be friends, but every interaction leaves her feeling really small and upset. She comes to understand this friend is actually NOT a friend, bc friends don’t make you feel that way. She decides to set clear boundaries and this is where we see the author teach the reader some empathy towards the aggressing child.The main character’s clear boundaries are:1. She tells the other child, when they want to play with kindness, she will happily play with them.2. But when the child chooses to behave unkind, she will tell them to go somewhere else and why.3. When they are ready to treat her with kindness again, they are invited to join.4. She will not tolerate them treating others unkind either and will step in.5. If using her words doesn’t stop their behaviour, she will get help with a safe adult, like a teacher.6. She will stick to playing with true friends who make her feel good.This book is helping my child realize the boy in class who hurts him daily, is actually not a friend, despite my child still trying to play with him every day. It’s helpful the books is a school setting, but I have found my son is now recognizing cousin’s, just like classmates, are not automatically his friend.If anyone is hurting you on purpose, via throwing things at you, punching you, head butting you, then lying to adults about their behaviour, thus making you feel sad, frustrated and small after interacting with them, they are NOT a friend.

There was a bully at my 3 yo's day care. Even though we had several talks about it, this book was really helpful. It does a great job at highlighting setting boundaries. It's cute & fun for my 3 yo. She loves it. My only complaint is how it starts out with a need to be liked & try harder to be liked. However, it's also helpful in small children that is pretty mutch innate.

Es un libro genial que contribuye a enseñar a un niño a poner límites y no permitir que lo acosen o lo traten mal.

The book itself is great and to the point but way much expensive

Good advice for young kids.Understood well by a five year oldVery nice pictures